Book Review: Where’d You Go, Bernadette by Maria Semple

Where’d You Go, Bernadette tells the story of a family that’s in trouble mainly because the “grown ups” have lost their way. It’s an often hilarious and sometimes mildly appalling parody of life in these days of helicopter parenting, perceived victimhood and impersonal electronic communication.

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Bernadette is the mother in this family. She was once a very promising architect but has been in a twenty year funk that has made her antisocial and bitingly (and hilariously) snarky. Her husband, Elgin, is a workaholic tech genius who really should have dragged Bernadette out of her self-indulgent funk years ago. Instead, he now plots an extreme intervention that’s doomed to fail. Bee is their teenage daughter who is extremely precocious and a little over indulged (there’s that word again) by Beatrice and Elgin. For example, her parents give her a family cruise to Antarctica for a middle school graduation present. Fortunately, Bernadette and Elgin seem to genuinely love Bee and haven’t messed her up too badly.

As the time to depart for the trip draws nearer, Beatrice begins to fret about seasickness, being forced to socialize with other passengers and a number of other related issues. Eventually, she just disappears without a trace. Bee tries to figure out what happened to her by pouring through emails sent by her parents, a crazy neighbor, Elgin’s assistant, a psychiatrist and a personal assistant in India. In fact, about 2/3 of the book is composed of the text from these emails and most of them are hysterically funny.

In Where’d You Go, Bernadette, Ms. Semple uses this epistolary technique extremely well. It lets us see inside characters’ heads because they tell part of the story in their own words. And because people often say things in emails that they would never dream of saying face-to-face, the result, in this case, is over-the-top funny. For some reason, I like this technique. It was also used very effectively in “The Guernsey Literary and Potato Peel Society.” Maybe the snoop in me just likes reading other people’s mail.

I suppose on the negative side, Bernadette never won me over. She was self-absorbed until the very end. While this made for some highly entertaining email correspondence and resulted in some comedic behavior, she wasn’t someone I’d want in my own life. But that’s okay because I wasn’t looking for a best friend when I selected  Where’d You Go, Bernadette. I was looking for a good laugh and I got it.

Thanks for the recommendation, Jeanne!

If you’ve read Where’d You Go, Bernadette, let me know what you thought.

11 thoughts on “Book Review: Where’d You Go, Bernadette by Maria Semple

  1. You’re very welcome, and I totally agree with your take on it! Bernadette would be way too annoying for me in person but the comic aspects of the story were worth the read. I also liked the “Guernsey Literary and Potato Peel Society” so maybe I’ve got the same tendencies about reading other people’s mail. :))) And P.S., I just finished “A Gentleman in Moscow” at your recommendation and absolutely loved it.


  2. I read this book when it first came out. I couldn’t remember details about it, but remembered it being a fun read. Your review reminded me why it was enjoyable- the emails!


  3. You are so right about this book. It was laugh out loud funny which is a rare accomplishment, I think. However, I loved Bernadette. I guess I love eccentric genius types with psychological problems. I listened to this on CD and really liked the reader who brought all the characters alive in a charming way. However, I want to go back and read this book and underline so many fun parts of it. The Microsoft/Seattle picture painted at the beginning was so great and I think so true. The cross town connectors for Microsoft kept showing up in other parts of the story. What a weird culture!! Bernadette’s supposed love affair with Seattle at the end was less convincing. This was a clever and unique novel. I have reserved more of this author’s books at the library. I particularly like the conversion of the “gnat” Audrey toward the end and the emails between her and Su Lin (sp? since I listened to the book, not sure of the spelling). I really disliked the husband/father, Elgin. His tirade at the intervention made him out to be a really angry, hurtful person but of course this was sort of necessary to set up Bernadette’s disappearance. I really miss Bee and Bernadette after finishing this book. Actually, I wish she would do a sequel with the same characters. Thanks for including this book in your reviews because I hadn’t heard of it otherwise and I am now recommending it to others.


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  5. I am with Deb. I rather adored Bernadette. (Plus also, I listened to this book via Audible rather than read it.) While Bernadette would probably be a bit exhausting in real life, I loved her wit and grit and “don’t get mad get even” approach to jerks). Based on the comments here (and my text chat with you, Mic) I don’t know if I should read a) The Rosie Project, b) The Guernsey Literary and Potato Peel Society, or c) another book by Maria Semple next. Any advice?


    • Well, I have read a, b, and c so…I will recommend The Rosie Project. Listened to it and liked it in that form. The next Sempel was not as good as Bernadette (altho my sister liked it better). Potato Society is a serious book, not funny or intended to be funny. Deb S.


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